Sunday Service: Managing Expectations


Week of Dec 13 – 19, 2015

As we get closer to the Christmas holiday, expectations rise. For me, there’s a long list of projects I must finish before the end of the year and my next trip to Asia. For my family, with whom I’m staying for the holidays, there’s the need for holiday decorations and the perfect Christmas.

Yet it is easier to create expectations than it is to meet them. Sometimes these expectations fail to be met. Often we fail to meet the expectations we set. With that in mind, this week we bring an essay about adjusting our thinking in the face of unmet expectations. The difference between happiness and sadness often comes down to how we look at things.


Peter Kowalke


Don't know HindiThis Week’s Spiritual Talk

The Shirt and Managing Expectations

by Peter Kowalke

“Take off your shirt.”

I get asked that a lot. The requests usually come from men, so it is a lot less exciting than it sounds. But it still is exciting.

My undershirts are famous. People love the shirts, and everyone who has seen one remembers the experience. They ask to see it, and they quote the writing on the shirts from memory. This includes some of the monks.

There’s really only one shirt, but I have it in different colors and sizes. The shirt reads, “Teach me Hindi, buddy.” It reads funnier when not translated.

Indians like the phrase, but the message really captures them. “I like your culture,” the shirt says, which should not be underappreciated given how many times people have colonized India. The country has lots of pride in its more than 5,000 years of culture, but it also has a massive chip on its shoulder from the British past and all the shiny conveniences now coming from the West. So an American asking for Indian culture is pleasing. And unexpected, especially from a pithy phrase on a shirt.

I made the shirts as part of my plan to learn Hindi. My primary objective for the trip is spiritual growth, but I also hoped to learn conversational Hindi, get to know Delhi, and sightsee a bit in the South. I’ve been chasing Hindi fluency for years, and this looked like the trip that would put me over the edge: Six stable months living and working with Indians who don’t automatically default to English when they see a white man. I came armed with the latest Rosetta Stone Hindi course, some dictionaries and educational aids, and a deep commitment to pound through the language. This would be my year. Enlightenment and a second language.

But I’m not learning Hindi.

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Swan1. Find a Community. If you have an existing church, temple or mosque, attend regularly. If not, join our Facebook group and see our list of recommended spiritual organizations.

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Our longer talk about spiritual routine can be found here.

Happy Sunday! Peace be unto you. Peace be unto all.

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